{"id":5157,"date":"2017-02-23T22:33:38","date_gmt":"2017-02-23T11:33:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/michellecooper-writer.com\/blog\/?p=5157"},"modified":"2017-03-06T17:02:00","modified_gmt":"2017-03-06T06:02:00","slug":"growing-up-gracefully-part-two","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/michellecooper-writer.com\/blog\/2017\/02\/growing-up-gracefully-part-two\/","title":{"rendered":"\u2018Growing Up Gracefully\u2019, Part Two"},"content":{"rendered":"

In \u2018Correct Dress\u2019, Mr James Leasor explains how much \u201cgood manners in dress\u201d have changed since the war. Wartime clothes rationing meant most people had to \u2018make do and mend\u2019; nighttime bombing raids popularised utilitarian garments such as the siren suit<\/a>; coal rationing led to theatre-goers and diners wrapping themselves in rugs and blankets to keep warm. Still, some things remain the same:<\/p>\n

\u201cWhat, in today\u2019s world, is correct dress? Though no one now dresses up for every occasion, the rule about dressing is unchanged. You wear as nearly as possible what is being worn by the rest of the party you are with.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

So, it is \u201catrocious manners\u201d to, say, visit a foreign church wearing shorts, a strapless dress or no hat. It is also bad manners to wear slacks and a jersey to dinner at a friend\u2019s house, unless you know your host will be wearing the same \u2013 just as it is bad manners to put on an evening frock if no one else is wearing one. The only time you can dress as \u201cgaudy and grand as you like\u201d is at a wedding. Young men should wear morning suits and grey top hats, while for women, \u201cno hat is too gay or too amusing\u201d.<\/p>\n

Mr Leaver also makes the important point that your clothes should suit your personality. If you hate drawing attention to yourself, don\u2019t wear outrageous clothes. In general, \u201cwearing clothes as an attempt to look conspicuous is nearly always a sign of an inferiority complex\u201d and he gives the example of gangs of Teddy boys and girls, who \u201cdress up to try and kid themselves that they are braver than, in fact, they are.\u201d However, he makes an exception for artists, who tend to wear extraordinary outfits \u2013 that\u2019s simply how the creative temperament expresses itself. He gives the example of two art students he recently saw at an exhibition:<\/p>\n

\u201cHe wore an orange pullover over velvet trousers, and he had a beard; she wore tartan trousers, and a short sheepskin coat.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

\"'Artistic<\/p>\n

And they didn\u2019t even realise what a sensation they were causing among onlookers! It all comes down to self-confidence:<\/p>\n

\u201cI sometimes think that the superb sang froid of a cat is due to its fur. Of course other animals have fur, but few wear it with such an air as does a cat. It is soft, usually a beautiful colour, and always a divine fit. All cats feel, I think, slightly superior to humans, and this may be based on the certainty that they are always perfectly turned out for every occasion.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

I thought Growing Up Gracefully<\/em><\/a> had already covered polite conversation, but Miss Emily Hahn now contributes a chapter called \u2018Conversations\u2019, all about how young people can manage when they\u2019re forced to talk to boring grown-ups. She reminds the young that older people are often not as confident as they seem and can be very sensitive. So don\u2019t, for example, discuss their age or weight: \u201cA remark like \u2018I saw a woman yesterday who was even fatter than you\u2019 does not go down well.\u201d Try not to look at your watch or the door when they reminisce about the olden days. If stuck for conversational topics, talk about sport, the weather or the family. And remember, \u201ctruth isn\u2019t always the first consideration in social intercourse.\u201d<\/p>\n

Miss Caroline Ball then provides advice on \u2018Manners at Work\u2019, beginning with how to apply to a job. A good letter of application is vital:<\/p>\n

\u201cSome employers judge candidates on their handwriting, style of letter, notepaper and neatness of folding it, quite as much as they do on scholastic achievements \u2026 Avoid scented notepaper \u2026 If you send a typewritten application, it is a good idea to enclose a specimen of your handwriting. It can take the form of a postscript to the effect: \u2018I am adding this so that you may see what my handwriting is like.\u2019 Stamps should be stuck on straight \u2026 Special note to girl applicants: don\u2019t leave lipstick on the back of the envelope when you lick the flap!\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Miss Ball then gives detailed advice for the job interview \u2013 for example, \u201cdon\u2019t even think of lighting a cigarette or producing a powder-puff.\u201d Of course, clothes require careful consideration. Girls should avoid huge earrings and gaudy make-up; boys should resist the urge to wear \u201cloud check sports jackets, flashy pullovers, wild ties and even wilder socks!\u201d Instead, Miss Ball recommends the three Ns: \u201cNice. Natural. Neat.\u201d<\/p>\n

This is followed by hints for starting your first job, such as being pleasant and responsive, turning up on time, not resenting chores such as \u201ccarrying round teacups\u201d, and not \u201csitting with your eyes riveted to the clock from five o\u2019clock onwards\u201d.<\/p>\n

Presumably once the young person has been employed for a while, they will be able to afford to travel. Then they should consult the next section, which includes advice on \u2018Manners Abroad.\u2019<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

In \u2018Correct Dress\u2019, Mr James Leasor explains how much \u201cgood manners in dress\u201d have changed since the war. Wartime clothes rationing meant most people had to \u2018make do and mend\u2019; nighttime bombing raids popularised utilitarian garments such as the siren suit; coal rationing led to theatre-goers and diners wrapping themselves in rugs and blankets to … Continue reading \u2018Growing Up Gracefully\u2019, Part Two<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[22,6,11],"tags":[54],"class_list":["post-5157","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-1950s-and-1960s","category-books","category-young-adult","tag-noel-streatfeild"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/michellecooper-writer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5157","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/michellecooper-writer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/michellecooper-writer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/michellecooper-writer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/michellecooper-writer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5157"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/michellecooper-writer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5157\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5181,"href":"https:\/\/michellecooper-writer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5157\/revisions\/5181"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/michellecooper-writer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5157"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/michellecooper-writer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5157"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/michellecooper-writer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5157"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}